How To Fly Despite Being Scared Of Flying.

How To Fly Despite Being Scared Of Flying.

Hey friends! I’ve been wanting to write this for a long time. I used to loooove flying but for the last couple years, I’ve started having anxiety attacks before and during a flight. Almost every flight I’ve been on lately, I’ve been in tears because I’m so scared. And there’s been no particular incident that has caused me to be scared of flying so it’s very strange to me. Anyways, I decided it’s about time to write a post on how to fly despite being scared of flying. Because no matter how scared I am, I still manage to get on the plane and get to my destination. Keep reading!

How To Fly Despite Being Scared Of Flying

Book The Best Seat

Turbulence is what scares me the most. The second the plane starts toΒ shake a little, I instantly have visions of the plane falling out of the sky and crashing to Earth and blowing up. It’s not pleasant. And while I know that turbulence is nothing to be scared of and it doesn’t mean the airplane will fall out of the sky, that logic goes out on the window when I am 35,000 feet above the ground.

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But believe it or not, where you sit on a plane actually has a lot to do with how much turbulence you feel. I always always always try to book our seats right on the wings. When I sit over the wings, I can barely feel the turbulence and my flight is exponentially better. The worst place to sit is at the back of the plane and 11/10 times I’m in tears during a flight if I sit in the back because the turbulence feels like the plane is falling out of the sky.

So, moral of the story: Book a seat over the wings and avoid the back of the plane.

Here are some helpful tips about how to fly despite being scared of flying! I myself am terrified of flying and often find myself in tears on a plane...

Listen To Music / Read A Book

The second I get settled into my seat, I put on my noise reducing headphones and open up Spotify and play eitherΒ Aurora’s (my current favorite artist) album or whatever else I happen to be the mood for. I turn up the volume loud enough that it drowns out the sounds of the plane (I tend to over-focus on every sound the plane makes because I think it means it’s gonna fall from the sky) and quiet enough to not give me a headache. Also, I tend to bring a couple books with me (yes, I’m one of those people) and will crack one open to keep me occupied for the flight. I’ll also play games on my phone if I can’t focus on the book. By doing these things, time goes by way faster and I’m less focused on my surroundings – which normally isn’t a good thing, but in this case……..

Take A Sleeping Pill

Not the best advice but hear me out. If I’m on a longer flight, I will take a sleeping pill about 30 minutes before boarding and I will sleep (9/10 times) the whole flight. It’s my own personal miracle worker. I put in my headphones, slip on an eye-mask (I have this blackout one I purchased from Amazon, I couldn’t live without. You can find it here), and the next thing I know – I’m at my destination!

I wish I had done this on my flight from Minneapolis to Los Angeles (the flight was too short to take a sleeping pill) because that was some of the worst turbulence I’ve ever experienced – we flew straight into a storm somewhere over Nebraska… I’ll write a separate blog post on that story though..

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Hold Someone’s Hand

This is a tip for if you’re traveling with someone. I’ve never flown alone before so I apologize if this tip isn’t as helpful. During takeoff, bouts of turbulence, and landing – I have a death grip on my fiance’s hand. He hates it and I don’t blame him, but there’s something so calming about it. I’m still freaking out, yes, but I would freak out even more if I wasn’t holding his hand. Silly logic but it works for me.

Here are some helpful tips about how to fly despite being scared of flying! I myself am terrified of flying and often find myself in tears on a plane...

Well, there are some of my tips for how to fly despite being scared of flying! If you have any tips, please let me know down below!! I will be forever grateful. Happy holidays!

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Here are some helpful tips about how to fly despite being scared of flying! I myself am terrified of flying and often find myself in tears on a plane...

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  1. April 29, 2017 / 11:19 am

    My favorite one is the holding someone’s hand. My son once asked me why I’d asked to randomly hold his hand – I didn’t even think about it before he asked. Relying on my five year old to help me sounds crazy lol

    • April 30, 2017 / 10:38 am

      Hi Meghan! That doesn’t make you sound crazy at all!! It’s just an another reason to snuggle with your kid πŸ˜‰

    • April 30, 2017 / 10:39 am

      I LOVE wine!! I would’ve never thought to drink some in the air though so on my next flight I will be ordering a glass.. or two.. or five πŸ˜‰

  2. April 29, 2017 / 12:20 pm

    Thankfully I never has anxiety of flying. Your tips are helpful for people who don’t like flying. I think putting an eye pad before take off can be helpful.

    • April 30, 2017 / 10:40 am

      Hi Sapna! Thanks for reading πŸ™‚

    • April 30, 2017 / 10:41 am

      Hi! Thanks for reading πŸ™‚

  3. April 29, 2017 / 1:08 pm

    Although I’ve flown quite a bit, I still panic any time we hit turbulence. Thank goodness I can take a melatonin sleep during transatlantic flights. Great tips.

    • April 30, 2017 / 10:42 am

      Hey Kristi! I once read that airplane turbulence is the equivalent of a car driving over some bumps in the road so I try to remind myself that but I also tend to lose all rational thinking haha

  4. April 29, 2017 / 2:27 pm

    I fly all the time, as you probably, but he stress does not go away. I usually just go to sleep.

    • April 30, 2017 / 10:43 am

      Hi Anna! I fly quite often too and you’re right, the stress doesn’t end! Hahaha sleeping’s a great way to avoid it πŸ˜‰

  5. April 29, 2017 / 2:33 pm

    I’m sorry to hear you’re so scared of flying, that sucks! I’m usually okay but turbulence definitely gets to me so I’m going to be using your tip of sitting on the wing, thanks πŸ™‚

    • April 30, 2017 / 10:44 am

      Hey Zarina! Anytime! πŸ™‚

  6. April 29, 2017 / 2:53 pm

    I’m not afraid of flying but I have travelled with people that are. One flight I sat in the middle seat between two complete strangers. The plane hit bad turbulence and both started to panic. The girl in the window seat grabbed my hand so I held it- it seemed to help. The younger guy beside me notice and his started hovering so I made the move and grabbed it for him. They both thanked me at the end. Such a simple thing to do to provide reassurance.

    • April 30, 2017 / 10:45 am

      Hi Hannah! I bet those people thought you were an angel!! My poor fiance’s hand tends to be a bit bruised after a flight lol

  7. Kyennapepper
    April 29, 2017 / 2:53 pm

    I love the tips! A lot of them fall in line with my post about how to entertain yourself on a long haul flight. Great minds think alike πŸ™‚

    • April 30, 2017 / 10:48 am

      Hahahaha yes they do πŸ˜‰

  8. April 29, 2017 / 2:57 pm

    The older I get, the more paranoid I get about flying, too. I still love flying, but I hate when the plane turns right after takeoff or before landing, when there’s land in close sight. I blame it on the fluids in my ears messing up my sense of balance, but the truth is I hate to see the ground right out of the window πŸ˜€

    • April 30, 2017 / 10:52 am

      Hahaha at least you have a completely rational way of thinking about it! πŸ™‚

  9. Julianne
    April 29, 2017 / 3:45 pm

    Great tips! I don’t really like turbulence either, so I appreciate your tip about sitting by the wings. Never thought of that before! Will have to do this for my upcoming flights πŸ™‚

    • April 30, 2017 / 10:53 am

      Hi Julianne! Sitting on the wings has saved my sanity!! It’s worth it even for the extra few dollars πŸ™‚

  10. mathewsalex
    April 29, 2017 / 9:44 pm

    I too am scared of flying. I always have to sit on an aisle seat on the wing (I don’t like being confined by the window). I use Dramamine because I also get motionsick and that usually puts me to sleep for at least half the flight which is wonderful. I find mint and ginger to be really relaxing. I put lavender oil on me as well because it’s relaxing. I can’t read on flights because of my motion sickness but I listen to audiobooks and they help to distract me so my thoughts don’t drive me into a panic!

    • April 30, 2017 / 10:54 am

      I use lavender oil all the time at home to help me sleep but I would’ve never thought to use it while traveling! That’s genius!

  11. April 29, 2017 / 10:09 pm

    Great tips! I love the font you had chosen for the heading – so personalised like handwriting! Good on you for braving the storm! πŸ™‚

    • April 30, 2017 / 10:57 am

      Hey Charmaine! Thanks for noticing that! That font is almost identical to my handwriting which is why I chose it πŸ™‚ Thanks for reading!

  12. April 30, 2017 / 9:01 am

    I am not scared of flying though I have to take pills during take off and landing. These tips will really help those who are scared.

    • April 30, 2017 / 10:58 am

      Hi Chirasree! Thanks for reading! πŸ™‚

  13. April 30, 2017 / 9:49 am

    These are some great tips! I am usually not afraid of flying, but sometimes I do get those pre-flight jitters and anxiety that I could’ve forgotten something! I think listening to music or reading a book is a great activity to distract you, for sure!

    • April 30, 2017 / 10:58 am

      Distractions are the best while flying!! πŸ™‚

  14. I used to never be afraid of flying; however, as I’ve gotten older and with the amount of missing planes and terrorist attacks, my flying anxiety has skyrocketed. These are some awesome tips for getting ahold of that fear. On long-haul flights I definitely try to take a sleeping pill and sleep through most of it. I also agree that sitting over the wing is the best seat.

  15. May 1, 2017 / 5:39 pm

    Im sorry to hear you are afraid of flying! These are great tips though!

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